How to Find a Mate: Consult your Ghosts!

When people tell me they are wondering who they should spend the rest of their lives with, I always suggest that they consult their ghosts. One piece of ghostly advice I got before I was married was to go to a comedy movie on the first date. It worked for us. We went to the Producers on our first date, laughed our heads off, and had a wonderful evening together.

But how do you consult your ghosts? You think about them and decide how you feel about whomever you sense has shown up. Do you trust this ghost or not? How much did you trust them when they were in the physical? (I know that psychics and mediums use other terms to describe them—entities, spirits, etc.–but I prefer plain old ghosts, because it’s a reminder that you don’t need to be special to have a relationship with them.)
But how do you get in touch? The best way is to remember the last time you saw them. What kind of relationship did you have? What kind of advice did they give you, and how do you feel about it now?

One way to hone your psychic talent is a very surprising one. It is to read poetry. It intensifies your spiritual energy and makes it easier for the other side to ‘see’ you.

For example, most of us feel unworthy of love. The great American poet Emily Dickinson expressed this feeling beautifully when she said:

‘I’m nobody! Who are you?
Are you—Nobody—Too?
Then there’s a pair of us!
Don’t tell! they’d advertise—you know!’

As any psychologist will tell you, before you can love someone else, you have to love yourself, and your ghosts will tell you the same thing! So start loving yourself, and you’ll soon find your ghosts rushing into your life, delighted that you’ve broken through to an eternal truth: we are all worthy of love, no matter who we are and what we have done.